The old saying goes "You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar". I know it's so true, but often in adoption, I find it hard. Hard to not become bitter. Angry. Jaded. Hard not to spew words of anger when literally that is all I want to do. Yet, it's not truly what I want, nor what God wants me to do. So despite miscommunication and other things that I am not fully happy about, I will just use honey in my words.
Ok..moving on from that now...
We need prayer! Because of said miscommuncation, or lack of communication, we are researching/looking at finding agencies to place our profile book in. We are also completely overwhelmed. It seems like each agency promises to have a "placement within 14 days" or some such thing. We don't know what to do, where to go, and we need Godly direction and wisdom. Please, please, please pray that God would guide us as we look over each agency in the coming days and decide which ones we want our profile books in.
Speaking of profile books...we are also updating those to be more current as our girls are 3 and 1 now. Hopefully, that will "sell" us more. As much as I hate that term, in essence, that is what we are doing.
Overall, I just am feeling discouraged and overwhelmed today. In 4 months, our home study will expire. Realistically, I don't know if we will get matched or placed before then. That does not make me happy. It angers me, saddens me, discourages me and I need prayer!! We need prayer!! For everything!!
About Me
- Vanessa
- Hi! I'm Vanessa! Wife to handsome hubby Chris. Mom to three little girls whom I adore. I'm passionate about life, adoption, photography, missions, music, singing, and reading. Often described as effervescent, I march to the beat of my own drum and I'm ok with that. Come follow along with me through the laughter and tears of learning how to parent three girls, how to deal with the challenges of adoption, and the interesting stories that life may bring our way.
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ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry you're having such a hard time.
ReplyDeleteI don't know if you have considered this or not, but the way my family adopted was by becoming a foster family. It was heart breaking as well, however, after a few placements, we finally got my little sister. She came to our family at 5 days old, and then her adoption finally went through when she was about 3 or 4 I think. And she is now 7.
Again, I don't know if you have already considered that, or if that's just something you're totally opposed to. But just a though
I'm so sorry to see you so discouraged, Vanessa. Take your frustration and disappointment to Him; He is big enough to handle it all. I'm still praying for you. I know it sounds like a pat answer to hear this, but I'll say it anyway... He is in control. He is our Provider, He is faithful, He has plans to prosper you and not to harm you... and He already knows the little person who will join your family... He is never late!! That said, I know the frustration of waiting, and waiting without hope in sight... but wait on Him, and wait in hopeful expectation.
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Angie-You are such a prayer warrior!! Thank you so much for that and the reminder that it is in God's timing!!
ReplyDeleteAnnaka-Thank you for your kind words. We have considered it, but always come back to where our hearts are drawing us and that is domestic infant adoption. Of course, if God would somehow lead us elsewhere, we will go, but for now..we are here. Awesome story of your sister! I love to hear stories like that! :)
Brooke-Thank you so very much! Even though it may be a pat answer, I needed to hear it. I think at times in this journey, my faith has been strengthed, and other times it has faltered. It is so good to have a friend work thru God to show me I need to trust Him! Thank you! Praying for you too and I'm off to check out what is new in your life! :)
I don't comment often, but you and your family are ever in my thoughts and prayers as you continue on this journey. Stay strong in the Lord!
ReplyDeleteThank you Kathleen! Any comment at all just lets us know that you care. We appreciate it!
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